Did you know that January typically sees more divorce filings than any other month of the year? Apparently, “Get a divorce” is near the top of a lot of New Years resolution lists. Family lawyers seem to be tracking this trend fairly closely, if articles by Eric S. Solotoff and Liz Mandarando are any indication. They talk about contributing factors that range from a “It’s a new year, I want a new life” mentality to the financial and extended family stressors brought on by the end-of-year holidays.
On the other hand, New Years resolutions can be aimed at improving a marriage: “New Years Resolutions for Your Marriage” and “10 Marriage New Years Resolutions for 2011: The Divorce Busters Edition” offer ideas for deliberately committing to a deeper, stronger love relationship over the next year. Kudos to all of you who are choosing a path of renewed dedication to your spouse, your marriage, and your joint endeavors for 2013! We also have a New Years suggestion for creating positive growth in your marriage, and it’s aimed at managing the business side of your married life:
Talk about your goals for the year. Sometimes the biggest change comes from simply knowing what your partner is needing, wanting, or expecting. With the pace of life so hectic today, it takes intentional effort to get on the same page. Talk about your goals, identify similarities and differences, explore compromises to address your differences, and write down some resolutions. Starting off the new year with a mutual understanding of your game plan for the next 12 months will feel great!