Emotional self-management doesn’t have to be difficult work; it’s just a different kind of work. And if self-management skills were studied and learned during childhood like history, math, and science, we would not find them hard work at all. Unfortunately, emotional health is not taught in schools–or even in many homes– although it certainly needs to be. As children, we are expected to behave, but we are not taught how this relates to emotional self-management. And how can children successfully behave when their feelings are dictating their behavior? Generally, if children are taught at all about emotions, they are told to control, not manage, feelings. Consequently, people can enter adulthood (and adult relationships) without much of a clue about how to manage their feelings.